Wellor Christina Monroe, dating apps are a useful way to deal with political talk at the beginning of a potential relationship. The 29-year-old media strategist shares on her profiles that her political views are “left-wing” and uses hints to encourage potential partners to share their own biases. for monroe being politically connected to romantic partners has become more of a problem since he moved from New York to Hollywood, Florida last year.
“I consider myself a very progressive person, but now I’m in Florida, where it’s the exact opposite—everyone is either very moderate or conservative or completely apolitical,” she says. “I have no tolerance for anyone who is apolitical. If you don’t care what happens to women, whether it’s Me Too or Roe v. Wadethen I just don’t think there would be any intellectual connection there.’
Monroe is not alone. Politics and social issues have had a big impact on how singles in the US approach dating in 2022, with the landmark Dobbs v. Jackson Women’s Health a decision from this June with a particularly significant effect. According to the 2022 Americas Singles Reportpublished this week, two out of three single women say they won’t date a partner who has opposing views on abortion, and 13% of active partners in the U.S. — about 9.8 million people — said the decision to cancel Roe v. Wade made them more hesitant to date. Even more people, 20% of those surveyed, said the Supreme Court decision would make them more hesitant to have sex. Singles surveyed reported that the top three ways they RoweThe turn of has changed their dating lives with more condom use, more hesitance around sex, and more fear of pregnancy.
For the survey, the match is the 12th annual report, researchers surveyed 5,000 single people between the ages of 18 and 98 in the U.S., finding that societal issues were top of mind this year for singles looking for love. As for broader policy issues, the report found that a lack of political commitment is a red flag for many dates: 31% of respondents said that a lack of opinion on key issues was a reason to end a relationship – nearly two times the percentage who said the same five years ago.
But singles also stressed the importance of open-mindedness: 58% think it’s a deal breaker if a partner isn’t open about key issues, and 46% say they’d date someone with very different political views. Only one in four say they want a partner who thinks just like them.
Anthropologist Helen Fisher, Match’s chief scientific adviser, who helped lead the study, was struck by the tension in the results between singles’ relative openness when it came to general politics and their inflexibility when it came to the abortion issue. “This is because politics is changing, but the consequences of Roe v. Wade it’s never going to change,” Fisher says. “Political figures come and go, but it’s part of our DNA to want to raise our families when we want, how we want.”
For all the impact the singles reported Dobbs decision had on their dating lives, not all respondents felt positive about having the conversation: 25% of women said they would like to talk less with their partners about abortion.
Monroe found it sobering to live in Florida during the flashback Roe v. Wade. Although abortions are still legal in the state, the ban on the procedure at the 15th week was recently reinstated. And she says the decision also made her much less likely to entertain the idea of dating someone who didn’t vocally support abortion access.
“I’m in a state now where it’s not as readily available for me to get an abortion or get help, and that definitely weighs heavily on how I approach sex and dating,” she says. “If a person I was talking to didn’t think my rights should be protected, I would absolutely never see them again.”
For some singles, concerns about access to abortion have caused them to reconsider their contraception. Zevi Ryan, a 30-year-old DJ and producer living in New Orleans, has long considered getting a vasectomy at some point because she doesn’t want children. As Dobbs decision, Ryan began to consider it with greater urgency – something he thinks about a lot of men.
“A lot of female-bodied people have to either change their hormones or go through a painful procedure just to make sure they don’t have unwanted children,” he says. “The procedure we’re going through is very routine, not very painful and rarely has side effects, so I just felt good.”
Maria Avgitidischief executive officer of Agape match in New York and hosts the podcast Ask a matchmakersees the impact of Dobbs dating decision as part of a broader trend of social awareness that she saw emerge in 2015 after Donald Trump announced he was running for president. She says the singles she works with, especially women, now want to be matched with people who share their views on politics and abortion.
“This political awareness is certainly the highest I’ve personally seen in 14 years as a professional matchmaker,” she says. “People express what they’re looking for.”
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